A Nigerian marriage therapist advises Muslim women that even if they are excellent wives, their husbands may still desire another wife, emphasizing that such desires are not always about them.
Nigerian marriage therapist Shamseddin Giwa offers advice to Muslim women, urging them to recognize and accept that polygamy is permitted in Islam and to familiarize themselves with this before entering into marriage.
In a Facebook post on Thursday, Giwa highlighted the common shock experienced by many Muslim first wives when their husbands decide to take another wife. He noted that despite the belief ingrained through upbringing that being a good wife would deter a husband from seeking another, the reality often differs.
Giwa emphasized that a husband’s desire for another wife is not necessarily a reflection of the first wife’s qualities or shortcomings. He pointed out that while one wife may excel, and her husband still seeks another, another wife may be less than average, yet her husband remains content.
He stresses the importance of recognizing that a man inclined towards polygamy will pursue it regardless of the qualities of his current wife. Giwa warns against allowing bitterness to develop towards the incoming wife, who may genuinely be attempting to foster a harmonious relationship.
Giwa advocates for pre-marital understanding and alignment with Islamic teachings regarding polygamy to mitigate potential conflicts. He concludes his message with a prayer for ease and guidance from Allah in navigating such marital dynamics.
