A UK based social media personality and life coach, Solomon Buchi has shared his views on marriage and relationships. Widely known for his opinions on various life subjects, including marriage, relationships, religion, and female fashion, his comments often spark controversy. Buchi stated that married people should always have access and passwords to each other’s devices.
Solomon Buchi took to his social media platform on Friday to share his thoughts on phone access in marriage. On his Facebook page, he wrote:
“Don’t date/marry someone whose phone you cannot access! What are they hiding? My wife knows all my passwords; her face and fingerprints are added to unlock my devices. My ATM pins and security answers – I shared them before we got married. I believe it should be like that. If you can’t let your spouse access your phone, then marry your secrets. Life is too short to be playing hanky panky when you can be confidently wayward.”
Buchi’s comment has sparked reactions from Facebook users, see some comments below:
Kuffire Obong said: “Exactly. It’s the last line for me.”
Miracle Nkem Adishi commented: “I will never understand people who say ‘it’s better not to check their partner’s phone.’ What are you even partners for if basic things like this can’t be seen?”
Richard Ubasinachi replied: “Miracle Nkem Adishi, what are the basic things you want to check?”
Jumbo Tennyson Timi added: “Don’t impose your principles on others. Live and let us live. The fact that you’re married to an angel doesn’t mean every other person married an angel. Some women are not financially disciplined and, as such, cannot be trusted.”
Ejeh Sara said: “You can still know all the passwords, but they’ll still cheat on you. If you read their chat, you’ll cry. After crying, you’ll clean up, then decide whether to go or not. Marry someone who knows cheating hurts to the core. Marry someone who wants only you and no one else. Marry someone who is content with you alone.”
Isaac Francis replied: “Your principle and opinion have nothing to do with others, since you’re not feeding them. Respect their opinion.”
Ifunanya Noel Ogbodo commented: “That’s exactly how it’s supposed to be.”
Smart El said: “My wife not accessing my phone doesn’t mean I’m cheating on her. You can allow your wife access to your phone and still cheat on her without her knowing… Everything is about mindset and perspective. In everything you do in life, just make sure, in the end, you’re with a ‘Good Man’.”
Otioda Godson wrote: “Any future spouse we can’t access their phones, and the ones that can’t access our phones, may we not meet them in this life, in Jesus’ name. Transparency is one of the solid ingredients for a lasting relationship and marriage.”
Manka Christabel wrote: “Uncle, you can believe what you want. Free everyone else. I’ve been in a relationship, and we never thought of giving or having access. When he asked, I just unlocked it. I never asked for his, but I knew it, which he knew. The one time I decided to check stuff out, I found things that added to our break-up a week later. I’m an advocate for sharing phone info.
Like, I would like to know what beast I’m to fight (if any) and which weapons to bring. But we always look at it from the offensives, and not defensive side. Everyone thinks the way they do. Rest! I even prefer not to be told the password, then I find it out on my own.
That way, I can check unaware, but if you keep it open, then you’re vulnerable, and you’ll always cover your tracks. In such a case, I’ll just never bother to check because I know nothing is in the phone. Nobody is that stupid to keep so much evidence if they want to keep you. That type of person can still come on here saying, ‘I leave my phone unlocked, and my partner has my password, and so do I, yadayda.
They don’t have a password too, so I think we’re safe.’ Bitch, please, we all know what we’re doing out here. If you want something hidden, you’ll hide it, and simply unlocking your phone won’t show me what’s been deleted or hidden. Have sense. Peace.”
